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“Ricordo il nome di tutte le donne che si sono ammazzate insieme al figlio disabile, sono stata tutte loro. È inevitabile, è capitato di pensarlo a tutte noi madri caregiver”. Fondatrice e portavoce di Tetrabondi Ets, che da anni promuove progetti e iniziative per costruire un approccio diverso alla disabilità, Valentina Perniciaro è diventata caregiver con la nascita del suo secondo figlio Sirio: “Sono uscita dal buio quando ho imparato a vedere un bambino dietro l’immagine che diagnosi, parole e sguardi avevano costruito. Ma fondamentale è stata anche l’energia di tutte quelle donne che come me erano da mesi nel reparto di terapia intensiva neonatale”. E pensando alla tragedia accaduta a Roma, dove Luca Abbasciano e Valentina Pambianco hanno ucciso la figlia Bianca e poi si sono tolti la vita, Valentina Perniciaro dice: “Bianca anche nella sua complessità avrebbe avuto diritto di frequentare la materna. Avrebbe fatto bene a tutti: agli altri bambini, a lei, ai suoi genitori. Avrebbe voluto dire concedere alla madre non solo magari di lavorare, ma anche il contatto con se stessa e con il mondo. Oggi lei e i suoi genitori sono al cimitero. Ed è una responsabilità collettiva”. Su Repubblica l’intervista di Alessia Candito #rep #disabilità #caregiver #maternità

La solitudine di chi si debba occupare di un figlio piccolo disabile in Italia è reale. Non parliamo della totale indifferenza del sistema per i cosiddetti caregiver dei genitori. In entrambi i casi: o hai soldi o sei condannato. Di *questo* dovremmo discutere ogni secondo, qui. #caregiver #disabilità #solidarietà

The Pathology Behind Compassion Something sinister can lurk behind compassion. Caring for others is noble, but when institutions are rewarded not for reducing suffering—only for managing it—care can become pathological. Munchausen syndrome by proxy shows the logic: a caregiver fabricates or induces illness in someone dependent on them to gain sympathy and attention. The caregiver looks devoted; the “sickness” is manufactured. In that sense, devotion can hide control. I call this the Daycare Governance model: society splits into infants to be protected (oppressed), caregivers who provide protection (allies), and predators to be removed (dissenters). Caretakers gain prestige, funding, and moral authority by managing suffering. Many may believe sincerely, yet incentives can overpower intentions—if status and resources grow with the number of “vulnerable” people, the system has reason to expand the victim class. It does so via concept creep (“trauma” broadens until ordinary difficulty counts), and by creating the perpetual patient, where normal sadness becomes pathology and struggle is rebranded as dysfunction. Care institutions and “victims” then reinforce each other. Dependency costs competence. True care prepares people to stand alone; pathological care keeps them dependent. Endless expansion of victimhood risks producing more dependency. We call it compassion—but compassion without boundaries can become control.

The Great Feminization, Measured Seventy-two percent of men under thirty hold a positive view of women; among women under thirty, 50% (a 22-point gap). Among women under twenty-five, the share is 35% (a 37-point gap). Where the manosphere and “toxic masculinity” dominate headlines, the data points elsewhere: young women increasingly sort men into the enemy column. The class divide is sharp. Among working-class young women, 61% view men positively; among professional-class women, 36%—a 25-point gap tied to exposure to universities, HR departments, media organizations, and NGOs. The pattern runs through institutional conditioning. Helen Andrews argued this in 2020: between 2015 and 2020 many Western institutions became majority-female, including the New York Times newsroom (2018), law schools (2016), medical schools and the college-educated workforce (2019). Affirmative-action mandates, discrimination settlements, and diversity requirements helped drive the shift. As institutions changed, so did missions: justice increasingly focused on protecting “oppressed” minorities; newsrooms shifted from reporting toward narrative enforcement; universities moved from arguing to “safe spaces.” The result is a “daycare governance model”: infants to be protected (the oppressed), caregivers to provide protection (the allies), and predators to be removed (the dissenters). Research shows the same frame in speech: FIRE’s 2026 college speech rankings found women less tolerant than men across ideologies, including less tolerance for their allies. A woman entering kindergarten in 2005 has spent twenty years inside this system—she didn’t invent it, she inherited it. The 35% figure suggests sorting into victim, ally, and predator, with no grey zones. Working-class women, less conditioned by these pipelines, still view men positively (61–36). None of this is entirely new; Gustave Le Bon described the mechanism in 1895.

Daycare Governance and the Tyranny of Compassion Something sinister can hide behind compassion. Caring is virtuous, but it becomes pathological when institutions gain power by expanding the number of people who need care. Munchausen syndrome by proxy shows how: a caregiver fabricates or induces illness in a dependent person, then gains sympathy by performing devotion. The sickness is manufactured, but the care is real. The claim: modern society can scale this into governance. Call it the daycare governance model: (1) victims to protect, (2) caregivers to provide protection, (3) dissenters to remove. Health, therapy, NGOs, academia, media, and bureaucracy gain prestige, funding, and moral authority by managing ever-expanding categories of suffering. It unfolds in two stages. First, the victim class expands: “trauma” drifts from specific, severe harms to everyday experiences, lowering the threshold for suffering until demand is nearly limitless. Second, the perpetual patient forms: ordinary difficulties are medicalized—strength as toxicity, sadness as disorder, restlessness as pathology—creating a cycle where caretakers and victims gain status or protection. This drives a crisis of competence. Victimhood can shield accountability, and institutions are rewarded for treating problems rather than eliminating the need for themselves. Plato warned against doing for people what they can do for themselves: removing every burden removes the reason to grow stronger. True care aims to make itself unnecessary. That’s the difference between a good mother and a poisoning one: one allows appropriate hardship to build independence; the other denies it. Failing to distinguish these forms of care makes the pathology hard to recognize—and easy to applaud.

The Victimhood Economy: Why Young People Prefer Socialism Western civilization is increasingly shaped by entitlement and a culture that rewards displays of victimhood. At elite universities, disability claims have risen: 18% of male and 22% of female undergraduates report a disability, and 54% of non-binary students, with higher rates at some wealthy schools than at community colleges. The issue isn’t genuine disability; it’s what happens when accommodations become status and advantage. Extra time, separate housing, and exemptions can turn diagnosis into leverage. When weakness is rewarded, some will learn to perform it. This matters because today’s students become tomorrow’s institutional elites. If grievance produces rewards, the lesson may spread into journalism, government, HR, academia, and business, letting beneficiaries inherit the power to expand the system. Research on victimhood signaling raises uncomfortable questions: people who habitually emphasize victim status, on average, show higher narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy—not to say genuinely suffering people are manipulative, but that systems rewarding victimhood create incentives for manipulators to exploit the category. Rob Henderson describes this as a status game: in elite institutions, grievance can become the currency of virtue signaling. For some, the rational strategy is to manufacture grievance and convert it into status. Nietzsche similarly argued that displays of helplessness can become covert power, while pity can create moral superiority for the caregiver. The danger isn’t compassion; it’s a culture that turns suffering into currency and teaches ambitious people that the easiest route to power is to claim they are powerless.

The Alliance against poverty warns that summer is the worst time for family caregivers in Italy, due to isolation and lack of services, with nearly 30% of families with disabled individuals at risk of extreme poverty and the urgent need for legislative measures to support these caregivers. (translated)

Family caregivers, especially women over 40, report the exhausting lack of rights and support during the summer months, while the Meloni government offers help considered negligible, as highlighted by a recent flash mob that sheds light on their situation of isolation and the daily difficulties in assisting family members with disabilities. (translated)

Il supporto ai genitori caregiver di bambini con malattie rare e disabilità complesse è essenziale per la loro salute mentale e fisica, e iniziative come il progetto Hol4All dimostrano come le vacanze strutturate possano ridurre significativamente lo stress e migliorare il benessere familiare. #RespiteCare #SaluteMentale #Inclusione

La Federazione Alzheimer Italia lancia un decalogo per aiutare i caregiver e le persone affette da demenza a gestire il calore estivo, evidenziando la necessità di maggiori servizi e sostegni strutturali, poiché in Italia oltre 1,4 milioni di persone convivono con questa malattia e 4 milioni di familiari affrontano quotidianamente le difficoltà dell'assistenza. #Alzheimer #Caregiver #EmergenzaCaldo

Francesco Pierantozzi, caregiver del fratello scrittore Alcide, dedicando la sua vita a sostenerlo nella promozione del suo libro Lo Sbilico, evidenzia l'importanza dell'altruismo e della visibilità dei problemi di salute mentale, sottolineando che il governo dovrebbe insegnare a non lasciare soli coloro che soffrono di tali disturbi. #Cultura #SaluteMentale #Altruismo

Alzheimer’s affects memory, identity & independence with a huge impact on patients, families & caregivers. In my message at MindShift in 🇮🇹, I underlined 🇪🇺 support for prevention, diagnosis & care from brain health research to the #SafeHeartsPlan, #medicaldevices & #BiotechAct. https://t.co/fPIE8Q5LKT #Alzheimers #BrainHealth #Caregiving #IT #EU

From my husband’s dementia journey comes a guide for caregivers—tools, resources, and lessons learned. 💜 #DementiaCare #CaregiverSupport https://t.co/36fAXyyax5 #DementiaCare #CaregiverSupport #AlzheimersAwareness #Thetweetdoesnotmentionanyspecificcountries.Therefore #therearenocountrycodestoreturn.

A suicide prevention charity, Every Life Matters, has developed support packs containing vital information and resources for families and caregivers to be distributed in hospitals across Cumberland, which has one of the highest suicide rates in the UK, to assist those affected by suicide crises. #SuicidePrevention #MentalHealthAwareness #SupportSystem #GB

A suicide prevention charity, Every Life Matters, has developed support packs for hospitals in Cumbria, which address the region's high suicide rates by providing practical advice and local resources to parents and caregivers following a suicide crisis. #SuicidePrevention #MentalHealthSupport #CommunityCare #GB

A suicide prevention charity in Cumbria, where suicide rates are notably high, has launched support packs, including a specialized booklet for parents and caregivers, to provide guidance and resources for managing the aftermath of a suicide crisis. #SuicidePrevention #MentalHealthSupport #CommunityCare #GB

A suicide prevention charity, Every Life Matters, has developed support packs for distribution in hospitals across Cumbria, addressing the region's high suicide rates and providing essential guidance and reassurance for families and caregivers following a suicide crisis. #SuicidePrevention #MentalHealthAwareness #SupportResources #GB

A suicide prevention charity, Every Life Matters, has created support packs for hospitals in Cumbria, where suicide rates are among the highest in the UK, to provide guidance and reassurance to parents and caregivers after a suicide crisis. #SuicidePrevention #MentalHealthSupport #CrisisIntervention #GB